On the other hand, some personality disorders, such as narcissistic personality disorder may present with signs of self-centered behaviors, such as bragging or thinking that one is better than others.
While not everyone who feels insecure hurts others, there are some people who feel insecure that seem to feel a need to make others feel their pain. Some mental health professionals believe that insecure people who hurt others intentionally use this behavior as a way to reflect on their pain by seeing it mirrored in someone else.
They seem to believe that this is a way to work out their own pain without having to pay the price for what their behavior. No matter what the reason, hurting others is never okay. If you feel insecure or are having issues with low self-esteem or self-worth, it is a good idea to find a therapist or counselor who can help you work through these feelings.
It's important to note that the toxic qualities described above can apply to anyone, regardless of gender. Toxic traits may not always be something that are easily recognizable. However, once you learn how to identify toxic traits, they become much easier to pick up on in others and yourself. Toxic traits are any trait that involve a person viewing themselves as better than others, or willing to use or manipulate others for personal gain.
Insecurity is not an independently diagnosable mental illness. It is, however, often associated with mental health issues, such as anxiety, depression, and attachment disorders. The negative impact that insecurity can have on life and relationships may only compound the symptoms of such disorders. Therefore, it is important for people who feel inferior or insecure to seek the help of a counselor or therapist to help deal with any insecurities and for treatment of any mental health conditions.
Experiencing feelings of insecurity can be frustrating. Feeling inferior to others or insignificant can have a profound impact on day to day life.
However, there are some things you can do to help overcome feelings of insecurity. Learn to know the difference between the two and surround yourself with the ones who will encourage you and celebrate your successes, no matter how minute you feel they may be. Second, understand that although insecurity may feel like the elephant in the room, it is invisible. Sometimes taking the focus off your insecurities by not talking about them to everyone and instead focusing on positive things, you can learn to calm some of your own fears.
Challenge yourself. Overcoming insecurity can feel overwhelming at times. Make a conscious effort to do something each day that makes you feel personally challenged. You may decide to go to speak to someone in a store that you would otherwise avoid because of anxiety or open the door for a stranger instead of shifting your gaze away from them. Each time you do something that is a personal challenge, celebrate your triumphs!
Any relationship that causes emotional, spiritual, or mental damage may be considered a toxic relationship. Toxic relationships typically involve some measure of fear, manipulation and deception.
While it is possible to handle the issues of a toxic relationship and to make decisions on your own regarding the status of the relationship, the long-term impact that a toxic relationship can cause emotionally may require the help of a professional. Dealing with a toxic person can feel like a challenge.
When you realize that a man in your life is toxic, you need to consider what role that person has and if you want them to continue to be a part of your life. The first thing you need to realize is that you cannot change a toxic person. Trying to change a toxic person will likely end up leaving you feel frustrated and having little effect on the person you are trying to change.
Set boundaries. Decide what behaviors you are willing to put up with and what you are not and make that clear to the person. When you decide what behaviors you can live with and cannot, make it clear to the toxic person what you feel and what you expect from them.
Be firm and establish consequences for when your boundaries are not respected. If you feel like you are always surrounded by toxic people, you may wonder if you have done something wrong or if there is a way to change the type of person that is attracted to you.
There is nothing wrong with you. Typically, they are drawn to people who are their opposite. For example, toxic people tend to gravitate toward people who are outgoing, positive, and compassionate toward others. If you find that you seem to attract toxic friends, identifying their toxic behavior and setting boundaries can help decrease any sense of anxiety or tension that you feel regarding those people. If setting boundaries does not seem to work because a toxic friend is not willing to behavior differently, the decision is up to you whether you continue to pursue the friendship or decide to disconnect from that person.
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Does putting cabbage relieve swelling and stop breastfeeding? A very helpful article! Most of them are not logical, of course. And they just are. And by changing how I respond to the cue of insecurity with new habits, my confidence returns.
This time around, it took me 24 hours. I empathize. I have done the same for most of my life. I was doing it this morning—thinking myself lesser than my peers for feeling insecure—until I read your article. That old way of thinking that got me through childhood. So, my new habit is to feel the anxiety that comes with errors and criticism and obligations and overwhelm and ambiguity and the like and to realize I am very capable. Not everything is going to go as planned.
Just choose a task and do it. And then the next one. And be kind and loving to myself, be the parent to myself I wish I had growing up. Thank you very much for all your articles but this one certainly resonates with me too and is really helpful. We all have varying degrees of issues so all articles are helpful. Please keep going with this as we are out here listening to you go sure.
Criticizing Others The capacity to be critical is not always a bad thing. But how does criticizing other people help us feel better about ourselves? But in the very short-term, being critical of others makes us feel better by comparison. And that feels good. When you criticize your spouse for always forgetting to take out the trash, what you are implying is that you are conscientious.
Worrying about the future A lot of people convince themselves that their chronic worry is inevitable or even necessary because, well, somebody has to think about negatives in the future, right? We worry because it does do something for us… Worry gives us the illusion of control.
Never Saying No One of the biggest reasons insecure people stay that way is because they are afraid to say no to people. For example: Your mother-in-law asks you if she can drop by and hang out with the kids. Your manager stops by your office and asks if you can take on a new account. Asking for Reassurance Reassurance-seeking is one of the worst offenders when it comes to habits that make us feel insecure.
Obviously, getting reassurance feels good in the moment: When you feel anxious and indecisive, outsourcing your decision to someone else relieves you of the anxiety. When you feel afraid of being judged for choosing one thing over another, asking for reassurance relieves your fear of being judged. Passive-aggressive communication Passive-aggressive communication is when you want something but are too afraid of conflict to ask for it directly.
You stop getting invited to events and social gatherings. Your relationships never seem to last or stick. Passive-aggressive people usually end up lonely and resentful.
Combine loneliness and self-resentment and insecurity is sure to follow. Excessive positivity This probably sounds like a strange one, but being excessively positive will quickly lead to a lot of emotional insecurity. And the reason is straightforward: Excessive positivity is just denial in fancy clothes. For example: Your best friend calls you up to chat and asks how things are going. If you can work to identify and eliminate these habits, confidence and self-worth will follow: Criticizing others Never saying no Asking for reassurance Passive-aggressive communication Excessive positivity.
Awesome article! Great advice for all. Great advice!! Really educative. It is because you are still saying it to yourself, to make yourself look better by comparison. Now THAT was funny. Did you say your Christian ways are stupid? Can we get this guy a Snickers? Iktr lol your not yourself until you have one!!!
Lol I say it alll the time!!! Well said. It is also how you become a victim of an abuser, narcissist, liar, bully etc. All five points were informative, especially the excessive positivity. Insightful and relevant. This one inspired me.
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