Enjoy your just-got-engaged glow while it lasts—as a newly minted bride-to-be, you still have a guest list to write. Navigating wedding plus-one etiquette for your big day is no easy feat. No need to fret—follow these tried-and-true wedding plus-ones rules.
Will they feel uncomfortable? How can we make them have a great time? The rules about cohabitation, dating, and marriage go out the window when it comes to plus-ones for your wedding party. Not only does a happy wedding party make a happy couple, but allowing a bridesmaid to bring her new boyfriend, for example, is a small token of appreciation you can offer in exchange for her efforts and support, suggests Harrison. The envelope should clearly state whether or not you may bring a plus-one, but if you got engaged after the invitations were sent out or you recently moved in with your romantic partner, it's okay to simply ask.
Ideally, a wedding invitation will explicitly state that you are invited "with guest". But if you are married, engaged, or in an otherwise openly committed relationship, according to etiquette maven Emily Post , it's okay to assume your partner may attend the festivities with you. Post recommends that those who are engaged, in a committed partnership, or living together be invited to come with that significant other," reads one New York Times article. That being said, if there's any doubt in your mind, it's best to simply ask for clarification.
Emily Post also suggests that if you are single, casually dating, or otherwise romantically unattached, you should not assume you can bring a guest. It is generally considered to be in poor taste to bring anyone else. This is considered impolite and disrespectful.
Or maybe the bride is a friend you used to work with and you're the only former coworker who was invited ; in that case, is it okay to ask about bringing a date so you have someone to talk to all night?
Or perhaps you have to journey far to a destination wedding and don't want to travel alone—can you bring a friend? While it's never really appropriate to flat-out ask to bring a plus-one —the couple has a budget or the location may allow only a limited number of guests—in some cases, it's not the worst thing in the world. The verdict? Don't ask. Even though it may seem unfair that you weren't invited with a plus-one, since everyone else at your table is a couple, think of it from the bride and groom's perspective: If you brought someone to the wedding who they didn't know, there would be a virtual stranger taking part in one of the most important days of their lives.
Another point: You'll be dancing with your girlfriends as a group most of the time. You'll be fine. It's okay to ask.
Your friend has a lot on her to-do list and thinking about who you would socialize with at the wedding probably didn't occur to her.
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